Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Singles Ministry

My roommate Carrie and I were discussing the other day the Singles Ministry (or lack there of) at the church I go to and Carrie sometimes does. She said I love the pastor, but there is nothing for people my age. I agree. There is no direction. Nobody plans anything. It's like the church doesn't care about you if you are single. You are lost (not in the sense of going to hell, but in the sense that the church doesn't reach out to you). They spend all this time on the children's ministry followed by the youth ministry. When you reach college, they've still got a little something for you. However, after that, you've got nothing unless you are married. Why should you have to go to a mega church to find a ministry that reaches out to you? You don't relate to the married people your age because you are not married nor should you be expected to. Yes, there are some things that you still have in common, but married people don't understand some of the struggles that singles go through and vice versa. I have lots of married friends and I love them all. I still hang out with some of them. However, I can't always call them up and be like I need someone to talk to and they are there. They have husbands and kids to worry about. Anyways, we were talking about how someone should plan an event that involves singles from different churches coming together. One night a month or whatever. I thought about this for awhile and then realized something. Old Fort used to have a get together called The Gathering which met on Saturday nights. I think it was once a month. It was mainly college students. However, when the church went to 3 services, the contemporary service was called The Gathering and they stopped doing the saturday night fellowship. I also remembered that in Greenville there is a new ministry called Off The Coast which was started by 2 guys that went to my parents church. Not sure if they still go there or not. They also know my friend Gina. This is what we need here in Charleston. A ministry that reaches out to young adults and singles.

1 comments:

MillerFourWays said...

Neither still go to Southside. J goes to NewSpring and T goes to Brookwood. I believe they left SF for the same reasons you are mentioning about your church.

I do have to disagree with you when you say married ppl don't understand the problem singles have. They do - they've been there, done that, and while marriage is GREAT, it still has challenges and issues all its own. One set of issues is not necessarily better than another. You're going to face that no matter where you are in life. I want you to know you can ALWAYS call me, anytime, about anything. Just because I'm married doesnt mean I dont have time for or dont care about you anymore. You've been one of my best friends since high school, and that hasn't changed just b/c I got married. =)

Perhaps you and Carrie could look into starting something like Off the Coast there in Charleston, like J & T have here in Greenville.